Thursday, October 4, 2007
Friends in America but GUYS in india.
I am sure we all notice that as soon as students come to America or even before coming here. we start looking for distant relative or a friend's cousin's sister's boss's son who is living in America. or in this case NYC. who could at least pick us up at airport and maybe give a place to live for couple of days till we find a an affordable apartment. I am very fascinated about how Indian girls change their point of view about their male counterparts as soon as the country changes. as far as i know i distinctly remember back home i have heard girls saying that late night out with GUYS "No way". or " that GUY has an habit of drinking alcohol" or" jeez that GUY smokes".however as girls land in America they r fine the same person being their room mate. please dont get me wrong I m not pointing fingers at Indian girls , at least not all of them. what is it back home? is it your parents pressure back home or you can really compromise those habits under financial pressure or you girls really think that ah those are just petty things as compared to what Americans do so it should not bother us. Or is it that you realise that back home you were being a little orthodox and now its rite time and age to act maturely on such issues.are the same "GUYS" in India are really worth making friends in America?
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let's put it this way
ReplyDeleteIn India:
Loads of people around them know them or their parents so there is an issue of so called reputation.............so some show off of that sort is required to show people how good n simple they are..................
In USA:
There is nobody around so they can do what they want as everybody's same.....sometimes the company also affects a lot.........but only they can put some light on this topic
eager to see some posts from gals.........
he he
Necessity is the mother of all inventions. an old saying but could be used here in this situation. I think back in India ppl are self sufficient & does not see any reason to fall back on anyone other than the parents which we sometimes take it for granted.Its only when you are away from the house & when one has to survive one gets rid off all the inhibitions & lowers his/her ego to settle with anyone which seems to be reasonable according to the so called American standards.Yes sometimes it is more to do with parents pressure & following blindly their faith.
ReplyDeleteTo be frank I compromised lot of my belief when I landed in states.not that I regret but have only grown with the new experiences to explore the world very different to what tght.
All the best.& have faith. :-)
Pawan Wasan
www.FreeCountryCodes.com
I so agree with Pawan.
ReplyDeleteI know wat my friends went thru..
n I respect them n their hardwork n perceverence.
Love,
shivani
n By the wat Me. Suru, beware, not all gals are like that ok. I have seen gals who stay to their standards n care a dam of people. I am one of those.. Use your words carefully. You need not generalise and eternalise it..
ReplyDeleteN above all the whole of Indian culture is dying to be americanised or so say wana become forward.
But again I say. not all are like that.. Some people stick to their values n do not compromise at any cost..
N Hardik, people only look for someone known because this is a new land n they are insecure .. Parents need to be comforted too that their daughter is going to be with someone for a few days who is not unknown. In India the whole building and whole complex is considered as relatives not just our blood relations.
Forgot kiya 1 year mei he..
Love,
Shivani